As I spend some time at home, with my family, this Christmas season, I'm reminded yet again, how quickly time flies, it's the end of the year again, not really sure how that happened. But naturally it gets me thinking about the year, I just had and whether or not I liked that year. What are some things that I did? Well what are some things that I want to improve on and do I really like the direction that my life is going in? And for the most part, probably more than any other late December pondering. The answer is yes. No, I'm by pretty happy with where I'm at right now, but it wasn't easy to get here. And I remember so many times in my life where that answer was no, where I really didn't like the person that I was when I thought about it. I really had some deep regrets about the year that I just had. I made some mistakes that I really want to correct. I wanted to break some bad habits. I wanted to start new habits, but the problem is it seemed like the same story every year. I didn't really know where to start. I didn't really know the secret. Two getting changed to stick and I'd watch YouTube videos, just like this one trying to figure out, you know, the magic formula that will help me stick to my goals and truly start a new chapter in my life, but the bottom line is, you're not going to change a thing. If you don't want to change, if you just feel like you should make a New Year's resolution, or you want to change some aspect of your life, because somebody told you that it was a good idea, then you kind of defeat yourself before you even start, you need to combine a very strong will to change. With a good strategy and I can't provide you with that will but I can't provide you with the strategy.
So, in this blog, I want to cover some things that helped me really transform my life. You know, not in sort of an overnight, kind of way as will go over but as he consistent mechanism that served me day after day. So that over the course of months, I was in a better position that I was the previous year and these things that I'm going to go over, don't just apply to New Year's. You know, you might be watching this video and July. It doesn't really matter if you have a strong feeling that there's something in particular that you want to change about your life and hopefully some of these things that I'm going to go over will help you do just that. So the first thing is to pick one thing to focus on, it's extremely tempting to try to, you know, let your mind run irresponsibly wild with all the things that you want to change about your life, in your mental health, your physical health, your social life Lobby blabbity blah and this is good this motivation and this drive to improve. His extremely useful, but you should dedicate all of this emotion to changing. One thing about your life, is good this motivation and this drive to improve is extremely useful.
But you should dedicate all of this emotion to changing one thing about your life. You know, later down the line as this thing becomes a habit, you know, it might only take 30 days for you to have this thing locked in, then you can think about adding more things. So, what thing do you pick? Well, I think the first thing you should do is write down a The things that you want to change about your life in several different areas and be very detailed and specific. Where do you want to be five years from now? You know, where do you want to be in your financial life, your social life? What do you want your mental health? To be like be very specific about this and detailed. And if you were to boil down one of these things into a daily habit that you could Implement, what would that look like? An obvious example is if you want to have some, you know, ripped Beachbody, inhabit them, crazy, Isil mass and low body fat. Then obviously probably the most important thing that will help you get. There is to develop a consistent Jim habit. So the actionable process to achieve that hypothetical goal is to go to the gym, four or five times a week or whatever you think works for you. And once you've determined what the actionable process to achieve that eventual goal is, it's really important to reflect on whether or not you are comfortable with doing that process. They under day after day it is this something that is realistic to you. You is this something that you think you could stick to? Because this process is what you're going to be interacting with one hundred percent of the time. You're not going to be interacting with the goal. You know, once you get there your goal will change. The process itself is what that thing will feel like it'll never feel. Like you are you know, living that goal. You know I'm saying? You have to learn to fall in love with the process itself and that is possible because a lot of that satisfaction comes from the quiet understanding that you're trending. Your In the direction that you want to Trend in part of the reason why going to the gym feel so good is because I know that going to the gym is good for you. And by going to the gym, you are becoming someone. You are proud of your operating on a day-to-day basis, as a more authentic version of yourself. And the gym, specifically feels really good because of the endorphin rush in the feeling of power. You get, when you lift heavy weights, you know, that's a bonus pretty much anybody who's ever been consistent with a gym. Knows that they're consistent. Not because they're thinking about this.
End goal all the time, it's just because they really liked the way going to the gym. Makes them feel both physically and mentally. And emotionally. It's just so it's just so good for you. This is a big ad for going to the gym if being well-read and well-versed in literature is extremely important to you. And you decide that this is the one thing that you want to work on, you want to read a book a month or whatever than anybody who's actually been successful with that. Will know that the thing that kept them going wasn't this vague concept or this vague sentiment of getting smarter. They just learn to enjoy reading for what it is. You know the microcosm of their end goal became the enjoyable thing to And with so decide what exactly about your life? He want to change. You know, what does that look like specifically? Then determine what that thing looks like on a day-to-day basis? Then try to figure out whether or not you're ready to strap on the boots and do that thing every single day because that thing is the thing. If you can't find enjoyment and fulfillment in the daily process of getting to where you want to be in life, that not only are you probably not going to stick with this change, but your overall just going to live a lesson. Able life. You know, if everything you do on a day-to-day basis, is just a means to an end. Then your life is just a means to an end. All right, the second point I want to make is that forcing yourself, is a good thing. A lot of the time, right off the bat, you might have alarm Bells going Joey. What about toxic hustle culture? What about getting burnt out? This toxic self-improvement is really taking over your mind, Joey, but I think that's all Bs to a certain extent, almost everything worthwhile in life requires some form of sacrifice. A lot of The time you're not going to want to go to the gym, a lot of the time you're not going to want to read books, you're not going to want to drink more water or whatever the hell. You decided is the best thing for you, but you should never determine the value that something has in your life before you do it. Not never that me that's probably not a concrete rule like you shouldn't. You shouldn't just do drugs and that evaluating afterwards whether it's good for you or not like you know you can use your judgment but we're not talking about doing crack here. We're talking about doing things that you've already determined are good for you and will help. You be where you want to be in life and help you be someone. You're proud of and a lot of the times even though these things are extremely good for you before you do them, you're going to have tons of this emotional and physical resistance in the way of doing that thing. And a lot of the time, these rationalizations will say, stuff, like, you're getting burnt out, you need to just take a break today. But in these particular situations, what you'll find is that almost 100% of the time, if you just do the thing, anyways, you'll realize that those rationalizations were bullshit. You're super tired. You're super stressed from work. And you have this voice in your head saying, no, you're burnt out. Just take a break. Don't pick up those sneakers and go for a run, but you do it. Anyways, you just go and put on your sweatpants, you put on your running shoes and you go for a run.
Anyways, pretty much 100% of the time you'll say. Wow, I'm so glad it didn't listen to that rationalization. I feel invigorated and proud of myself because I didn't fall for that. And on that topic of burnout or feeling lethargic or depressed, it's extremely hard. And to feel that way by consistently taking constructive action far more draining on your will and your existence is the slow creep of existential dread as you sit around and do nothing and let opportunities pass you by that's far. More draining on your existence than forcing yourself to go to the gym even though you're a little tired. So use your brain. I'm not saying punish yourself for messing up or, you know, make your feet bleed and call yourself a bitch if you don't run 10 miles and take 3:51 PM Cold showers. You would like that. Obviously, you can take it too far, but it is healthy to force yourself past the resistance and the rationalizations holding you back from doing something that you already know is good for you. And the final point I want to mention is that you can make the processes work for you, there is a way to make the processes genuinely more enjoyable and there's a lot of methods that you can employ to make this happen. It's important to realize that you're on your own side. You know, you don't want to punish yourself for messing up, you don't want to participate in activities, that You find absolutely unenjoyable to your core. There are ways to make these things that are good for you also feel good in the moment. A really good example, of this is, I wanted to start doing deadlifts, but I hate deadlifts and I know that deadlifts are super good for you and they're one of the most useful compound exercises, you can implement, but I do not find any enjoyment and doing deadlifts whatsoever. I kind of have low back pain and allegedly, deadlifts are supposed to help your low back pain because you can strengthen your Low back by doing them but if your low back hurts so much that you can do them. Anyways, I don't know, it's always just been a mess for me but I recently discovered the hex bar and even though the X bar is kind of frowned upon with like powerlifting purists or whatever, who gives a shit, I tried it. And I found it so much more comfortable to do the lift. I could load up more weight on it. The way it was distributed to my hips and not to my low back off the initial pick up and now X bar deadlifts are a staple of my back day routine. Another example is reading books, maybe you actually hate sitting down to read a book, so instead you might want to try audiobooks. This video is not sponsored by audible, by the way. You know, I've mentioned habit bunching on this channel. Maybe you want to implement a writing habit every single morning? Maybe you create a rule with yourself where you can't have your first sip of coffee, unless you have written your first sentence of writing, and as you're writing, you get to enjoy this nice hot cup of coffee. Do not be afraid to modify your approach. Ouch and modify the Habit so that it is something that is more enjoyable to you. And if the process itself is something that you look forward to doing that, I guarantee you, it'll be no problem sticking with that change for the long term. So the bottom line is, if you want to substantially change your life in one year, take it one habit at a time. Figure out why you want to do that habit. And what the end goal of that habit is then try to make that habit as enjoyable as possible for yourself. And once you do that, do it. Anyways, regardless of what your rationalizations are Evaluate, whether that thing was good for you. After you do it, not before you do it, and you can start compounding this month after month. Once you have one habit logged in after one month at a new habit, the second month. And by the end of the year, you might have 12 new habits, which might be Overkill. At that point, you might only need a few Cornerstone habits that will change your life forever. But honestly over the course of one year, the sky is the limit. You can be in a substantially better place this time next year if you implement the strategy. Combined with your motivation and will to change.
So, good luck to all of you guys, no matter whether it's New Years or July, August September, whatever.